An insecure person doesn’t want you to grow up. They want you to stay down. That’s because this makes them feel secure. The greatest threat to love – which is neither secure, nor insecure – is comparison. Love is free of all comparisons. Comparison is a form of measurement. When you have something or someone to measure ourselves against we feel relevant. Why do we do this? Because we are constantly comparing based on something. We compare ourselves to our parents, to our friends, to our celebrities, to our co-workers. This separates us from that which we are viewing. There’s “me” then there is “them”. There’s distance between me and the object. How is this object relative to that object? This gives us a sense of relativity, which offers us an interpretation or comprehension. meaning. Meaning makes us feel fulfilled. This is a necessity to get along in life. But how often do we subjectify our objective reality? Our feelings, emotions, opinions cloud our perception towards truth. This is a place many people become numb to. This area of subjectivity is covered by the storm of themselves. Reality becomes distorted. They’ve conflated a physical reality with their psychological reality. In how many situations do we carry stories all day long in our heads that stress our nervous system and entire being. How often do we conflate our opinions/ideas/beliefs with our feelings? We become numb or anxious to our own stories and so does our body leaving our bodies and minds in a state of dis-ease.
Psychologically, our minds are always trying to arrive at something in the form of an idea, through words or images of the mind. Then the mind can move on to the next thing. What if they created an AI device to track the places and directions your thoughts travel through during the course of a day? Then you could go back and watch the different random and interwoven places your mind traveled. The times you’ve become sleepy were probably the times your mind got exhausted with its typical day of travel. There was nothing new and inspiring in your day of travel through your mind. How much of this is connected to yourself? All of it is. You cannot possibly think, without a relation to self. If I’m thinking of someone else or many others it’s relative to me. That’s the basis of thinking. There’s nothing wrong with this, it’s just a fact. In the truest and deepest sense, listening is the absence of self. In listening is the absence of thought. In thought exists relativity and comparison. The thought can be positive or negative, but it’s still thought and within it “I” exists. Within this area is a construction zone. The purpose of a construction zone is to improve or upgrade based on an evaluation. Within the realm of my thinking I am always evaluating. Eg.“What am I going to have for lunch?” “What is my next job?” “Why hasn’t my Hinge date called me back? “I don’t like the way that person looks at me.” “That was a lovely smile from that stranger” “That tree is beautiful.” “That car is ugly.” All of this comes at the cost of comparison.
To compare is to put at least two different objects next to each other in order to understand the relationship between things. Even if I say “that car is ugly” it has to be in comparison to something you know to be pretty. And what you “know” exists in your memory. So in the realm of thinking comparison must always exist. Evaluation, comparison, memory, judgment all exist in the thinking brain. It’s impossible to get around this fact. As I am writing this and you are reading this we are both in evaluation of the words and the ideas being shared. Their relevance will only be understood by comparison.
So we have to establish that comparison, judgment and the whole process of thinking are one and the same. Now you do not need anyone to tell you how important the process of thinking is. You also probably don’t need anyone to tell you how to think or what to think. At least that is not the point of this book. Something that has no point, never ends. Two points meet as one. But when it’s all one, no point is needed. The thinking mind, which is learned and conditioned, is tortured by this because its point has been disrupted—its conditioned pattern of control and direction, destroyed. Meditation is the work of unconditioning the pattern so it is free from control and direction, thereby losing its need for comparison. Meditation is uncovering the layers that have concealed a person’s genius. Meditation is a surrender from the known so a higher intelligence can operate awakening from deep within and throughout its existing environment. This likely happens for you naturally when you are lost in the work of something you love. My mission is for this process to become more natural and common in all that you do. So that you can create a life you love, uncovering your genius.
